4 amazing things about Igbo traditional marriages
The Igbos are one of the three dominant ethnic groups in Nigeria. They hold their culture in high esteem and inhabit 5 states –Ebonyi, Enugu, Imo, Abia and Anambra-in the South East.
Their
conjugal ceremonies are akin to grand festivals as families jive in
pomp and pageantry, magnanimously parading extravagance and riches as a
communal status symbol. While many find this unusual, it is a delight to
watch.
If you are considering marrying a lady from this part of the country, Jovago.com, Africa’s No 1 hotel booking portal shares four interesting things to note about Igbo traditional marriages.
It is expensive
Igbo
traditional marriages are some of the most expensive in the country.
Compared to weddings in other ethnic groups, this ceremony often serves
as an opportunity to showcase wealth and social status.
According
to native custom, the groom uses this ceremony to compensate the
parents for raising a decent and responsible daughter and prove his
worth as a man.
Bride price is over-the-roof!
The
bride price attached to marrying an Igbo woman gives many men a scary
feeling as the list of items demanded by the bride’s family can be
overbearing.
Due to this, there is a public perception that they want to sell their ‘girls’, however, this is not the case.
The
bride price is negotiable, but it is the role of the groom’s family to
persuade the betrothed his father to trim the items on the list. Bargain
items like kegs of palm oil and tubers of yam, if you truly love your
woman and want a healthy purse after the wedding!
Wine carrying (Igba Nkwu)
Wine
carrying is an integral part of the wedding. It is a feature that
invited guests should look out for as it lends credence to the unique
nature of Igbo culture.
It
is a gallant display where the bride is required to present
freshly-tapped palm wine to her soon-to-be husband. She looks for him in
the crowd as an enthusiastic group of men comically compete for her
attention. Once she picks him out, her knees touch the ground before him
as she presents the cup of palm wine for him to drink from. Here is the
tricky part, it is important for the husband to accept this wine and
guzzle every drop. If he rejects it…he rejects the woman!
Compulsory trips to the bride’s village
If
the groom is from another ethnic group, he may not look forward to this
but, it is an inescapable ritual. The groom may be lucky if the bride’s
parents are in Lagos and have lax tied with their hometown.
However,
if the reverse is the case, the parents of the bride may insist that
the wedding be held in the village after he travels to see the elders of
the family dwelling there.
Although people from other tribes are often amazed at these demands, it adds to the thrills and frills of Igbo conjugal bliss!
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