MISTAKE
#1: Being Too Much of a "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the
really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?Of
course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends
that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were
never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here? It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of
men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what? Being nice doesn't
make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman
CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's
hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin
to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE
#2: Trying to "Convince Her to Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet
a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to
"convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU
WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel
differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel
it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by
being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested,
we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE
#3: Looking to Her for Approval or Permission
In our desire to please women (which
we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to
get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types
of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY
for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a
woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for
things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking
for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive
woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE
#4: Trying to "Buy" Her Affection with Food and Gifts
How many times have you taken a
woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT
you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had
it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this
happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a
clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me
for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come
across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at
manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE
#5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early in the Relationship with Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake
that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early
on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from
men.
Most men don't realize this, but
attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE
An attractive woman is often
approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into
dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated
a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an
attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything
is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you"
after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that
you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't
control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE
#6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works for Women
Women are VERY different from men
when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and
deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young,
sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to
men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for
over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their
"attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a
lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way
around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain
qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than
they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body
language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of
powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young
woman.
But it's not an accident. You have
to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE
#7: Thinking That It Takes Money and Looks
One of the most common mistakes that
guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think
that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or
guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who
are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more
interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that
attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and
how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to
"settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know
how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women
feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE
#8: Giving Away All of Your Power to Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a
mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a
lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get
women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men
that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE
#9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What to Do in Each Type of Situation with Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're
thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES
better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe.
But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss
her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what
to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and
getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of
women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her
number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each
situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know
EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first
meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE
#10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most
men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make
themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me
and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up
with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with
women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend,
and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to
do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision
to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and
trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any
woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated
actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding
experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know
how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can
go out and meet attractive women.
I've written a book on the topic,
and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens
of thousands of men all around the world.
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